Why is it we expect perfection—from ourselves, from others, from life? What’s that about? As a recovering perfectionist who decided a few years ago to actively fight the controlling dis-ease of perfectionism, one of the most effective strategies I’ve adopted is planning ahead for slip-ups. By “planning ahead” I mean: Expecting them—Slip-ups are going to [...]
I have a friend, let’s call her Sally, who won’t share her New Year’s resolutions until months into the year…when she confesses her resolution has fallen by the wayside. Three years ago her New Year’s resolution was to stop complaining. How do I know this? Because it slipped out in a conversation in May when [...]
When you think about your goals for 2012, where is there a gap in your resources? Are you lacking in the assets—the things or thoughts, actions or energy—you need to make this YOUR year? We need resources to accomplish our goals and be the person we want to be. But here’s the thing: Often we [...]
I want to experiment more in 2012. I want to try things, experience how they feel, figure out what works, see what doesn’t. I want to experiment and pay attention to what I call the cues and clues of discovery. That’s a basic principle of experimentation: paying attention to the cues and clues of discovery. [...]
As you think about and plan for making 2012 a great year, have you embraced that not everything can be equally important? Watch this short video to find out more. What matters most to you in 2012?
I was out and about in the world today and noticed something striking, something peculiar. Hardly anyone was smiling. Not the people I passed on the sidewalk. Not those driving in their cars. I saw couples sitting together at restaurants with barely a smile between them. I saw clerks in stores and customers at cafes [...]
