Obstacles to Success Series

Stumbling Blocks or Stepping Stones: What You Say To Yourself

What do you say about yourself to explain your disappointments, setbacks, and failures? How do you hold yourself back with limiting beliefs, false assumptions, powerlessness, and negativity?

We often form false assumptions or limiting beliefs—whether conscious or unconscious—following a disappointment or setback. These false assumptions and limiting beliefs are damaging because they’re a self-fulfilling prophecy.

By surfacing and altering these assumptions and beliefs, you create new possibilities. For instance, how different would it be to say “Every day I learn in leaps in bounds” to replace “I don’t have enough experience.” Or “I’m a dynamo for the right goal” instead of “I’m not motivated enough.”

This session reveals how your effectiveness is shaped by the messages you tell yourself, which can all too easily become stumbling blocks to living your best life. You’ll learn how to retell the story by altering your false assumptions and limiting beliefs into an empowering mindset, thus creating stepping stones for your success and pointing to an exciting future.

Breaking Down the Wall Between Potential and Performance

Peak performance—both personally and professionally—requires clearing the mental and physical “clutter” from your life to increase energy, focus, and effectiveness.

It’s difficult to be visionary and strategic when weighed down with a multitude of tolerations—from over promising at work to always running late; from contending with an unpredictable cash flow to a big house that is difficult to keep clean; from procrastinating on work projects to an endless To Do list that never gets done; from being uncomfortable at networking to waffling about pricing strategy.

The list of undermining tolerations is nearly endless. But there is a solution for the tolerations that distract you from what is really important in your personal and professional life. This presentation delivers powerful and effective strategies to help recognize, address, and eliminate the things in life you are putting up with.

This session will:

  • Define tolerations and explore how they limit energy, reduce focus, and diminish effectiveness
  • Identify your tolerations from an assessment of 200+ common tolerations
  • Explain two significant costs associated with tolerations
  • Explore three courses of action that can be applied to individual tolerations
  • Offer effective strategies to combat the reoccurrence of tolerations
  • Explore the compelling benefits of being toleration-free

Perfection is the Enemy of Efficiency and Effectiveness

Are you a perfectionist who feels anything less than perfect is unacceptable?

Perfectionism is characterized by expending more and more energy to achieve increasingly smaller gains. It’s defined by additional effort that results in negligible improvement. Yet, despite all their hard work, perfectionists don’t actually perform better than non-perfectionists. In fact, contrary to popular opinion, perfectionist tendencies actually interfere with performance.

This session explores how to avoid perfectionism for greater efficiency and effectiveness and adopt a mindset that reaps the rewards of productivity, not the false promise of perfection.
In this session, you will:

Examine twelve tell-tale traits of perfectionism and three types of perfectionists Understand the difference between Perfectionists and Healthy Strivers Explore nine negative consequences of perfectionism Learn strategies for eliminating the unproductive effects of perfectionism

Stop Suffering From the Imposter Syndrome

Successful women and men suffering from Imposter Syndrome experience chronic self-doubt and attribute their achievements to luck and misperceptions. Even in the face of evidence to the contrary, they continue to doubt their competency.

Imposter Syndrome is the sense you’ve been promoted beyond your abilities, you’re not as smart or skilled as people think, you’re in over your head, and your strengths have been overestimated and your weaknesses underestimated. It’s accompanied by a nagging sense the truth will be discovered and everyone will realize you’ve been faking it.

This session creates awareness about what the Imposter Syndrome is, explores its three tell-tale signs, highlights the paralyzing behaviors of procrastination and perfectionism that often accompany Imposter Syndrome, and offers practical strategies for bridging the disconnect between self-appraisal and external reality.

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