What Matters Most 365®: Life By Design is an 8-week, intensive, one-on-one, virtual bootcamp for making the next 365 days your best yet.
Are you ready to stop frittering away your days and finally live a fuller, more satisfying life?
You can start right now by learning how to design—and live—each day of your life around what matters most to you.
Does this sound familiar? (aka: The wake-up call)
Are the weeks, months, and years slipping by? Do you find yourself asking, “Is this all there is?”
Do you routinely nip your dreams in the bud in the name of “being realistic”?
Do you feel disconnected from what you really value and your true priorities?
Is your vision of the future hazy and lacking in focus? Or maybe your vision is clear, but do you feel frustrated, overwhelmed, and discouraged at the prospect of making it a reality?
You feel like your goals and aspirations are on the horizon, like a mirage, visible but always just out of reach. You grasp spanning the distance will require hard work, and you know you’re going to get there, some day. But then another month passes, six months, a year…and you wonder where the time went. You feel frustrated, saddened, or discouraged that you’re not focused on what really matters, and like time is running out.
The undeniable fact is you’re not living the life you want, the life you could be living—your best life.
Here’s a simple fact: You go around once. This is not a dress rehearsal. You don’t get a do-over. If you’re not living the life you want, how much more time are you going to waste?
I know we’re living busy lives. Some of us even more than others. Caring for children, caretaking elderly parents. Working full-time, which for many has become the equivalent of a job and a half. Running errands, marking off chores, making ends meet, doing what needs to be done.
No doubt, there’s likely some of what really matters embedded in how you spent your last 24 hours. But is there enough?
Make time to make time.
Many are deferring what really matters most to them until some magical, mystical moment in the future when suddenly they won’t be so busy. But here’s the thing—I don’t think that moment ever comes. Not on its own anyway.
I don’t think it magically appears when the kids are in school or when the kids are grown. When that promotion comes or there’s a new job. I don’t think it magically appears when the house is paid off or even at the point of retirement.
That moment comes when you decide to make it happen.
It starts with the decision to truly shape your life around what matters most to you. The time is now.
When will you make the time to finally focus on what matters most to you?
This program helps me focus on what matters most rather than just keeping busy. I know I’m reaching my goals faster and easier because I’m more focused on the right actions.
Kathleen Miles, Erie, PA
Okay, how can I get started?
- Use the “Book Now” button on the righthand side of your screen to sign up and schedule your first session. Within 24 hours, I’ll be in touch to welcome you to the program and with your first week’s pre-work.
- In advance of each call, complete 1-3 hours of pre-work, including self-assessments, e-courses, worksheets, journaling, brainstorming, and reading assignments.
- Call in weekly for your 45-minute personalized Support & Accountability coaching session to apply Life By Design concepts to your life in real, meaningful, and lasting ways.
What do the coaching calls entail?
I’m glad you asked! Below you’ll find a week-by-week summary of the topics we’ll be covering both in the calls and in your pre-call work. These topics will be the driving force behind your sessions and the blueprint you’ll ultimately create for what matters most to you.
Here’s what we’ll cover in Week #1
Current landscape: Where you are, what’s working and what’s not.
You might be thinking, “I know where I am. I know what’s working and what’s not.” But if you’re like most, there’s knowing and then there’s knowing. You’ve likely gotten good at looking the other way, putting on band-aids, creating workarounds…
During Week #1, you’re going to stop looking the other way. You’re going to rip off the band-aids. You’re going to get down to the root causes behind the workarounds and jury-rigged “solutions” in your life.
I’ll be honest: some don’t want to spend this time.
But here’s the thing: You can’t get where you want to go unless you know where you are. It’s like taking a trip. What do you do first when you pull out the map? You pinpoint where you are. You find your starting point.
We’re going to spend our first week together finding your starting point. The good, bad, and ugly. Or as one client recently put it: the good, bad, and the mind-numbing.
Something amazing happens when you get really clear about the current landscape of your life. It brings you to a decision point. You no longer have the option of keeping your head in the sand and staying on autopilot.
Here’s what we’ll cover in Week #2
Tolerations: What’s weighing you down and draining your energy.
During Week #2, we’re going to pull back the curtain on a dirty little secret about what holds so many back from living intentionally and having a breakthrough year: tolerations.
Tolerations are the “gunk of life”—things you put up with that create friction, occupy space in your mind, and drain your energy. For instance, you’re likely putting up with situations, people, unmet needs, crossed boundaries, your environment, stress, expectations, unfinished business, reactions, problems, feelings, restrictions—even your own behavior!
In fact, the average person tolerates between 500 and 1,000 things every day. Just think about that for a moment. Can you imagine—even on the low end—what those 500 things are getting in the way of?
Here’s the bottom line: The time and energy you spend tolerating builds up, distracts you from what matters most, and prevents you from thriving.
This week you’ll take an eye-opening assessment of 500+ tolerations to discover what you are tolerating. Even more importantly, you’ll learn how to use the ACE method, a simple, three-option system for ultimately living a toleration-free—or at least drastically toleration reduced!—life.
Here’s what we’ll cover in Week #3
Who you are: What makes you stand out and what is tripping you up.
Week #3 begins with the most fundamental question: Who are you? Not who you were last year or ten years ago. Not who you think you should be. Not who others expect you to be. But who you really are.
I’m always surprised by how many are tempted to answer this question with a verbal recap of what can be found on their birth certificate, resume, and driver’s license. The question, Who am I?, is not asking for your biographical details, a chronology of your work history, or your marital status.
This little question of three small words packs a punch and goes far beyond scratching the surface of the details of your life.
So what makes up the Who?
- The Who encompasses everything from identifying strengths, weaknesses, likes, and dislikes to uncovering values, needs, attitudes, and passions.
- From exploring personality, personal characteristics, mindsets, and motivational drives to considering accomplishments, knowledge, education, and experience.
- From investigating dreams, goals, and definitions of success to surfacing talents, skills, and abilities.
- From ferreting out interests, preferred environments, and lifestyle expectations to revealing what gives energy, what drains energy, and what keeps you engaged.
During Week #3, we’ll explore who you are in relation to what makes you stand out in a crowd (your strengths and talents) and what keeps tripping you up (your weaknesses and limiting beliefs).
But this isn’t exploration just for the sake of greater self-awareness. No, indeed! This week is all about understanding who you really are—without all the shoulds, have tos, old baggage, and false modesty—so you can have a breakthrough year.
Here’s what we’ll cover in Week #4
Living your values: From 500+ to the 10 to Live By.
When I ask if someone is living their values, I often get a deer-caught-in-headlights reaction. It’s as if the question had never occurred to them.
Too many are experiencing a disconnect between their life and their values. Not surprisingly, they feel out of sync and off balance, inauthentic and half living.
It’s really this simple: When you live your values, life gets a whole lot easier. Situations that used to befuddle you are suddenly clear. Circumstances that once kept you stuck and drained your energy no longer have a hold on you.
Here’s the thing: there’s a lot of confusion about what a value is—and is not.
Values are not something you want or would like to have; they aren’t something you think you should want or have. Instead, a value is something you need to be whole. When a value is expressed in your life, you’re energized and feel most like yourself.
During Week #4, we’ll continue our exploration of Who you are. We’ll do a deep dive into your values to better understand what’s most important to you. If you’re like most, there will be some surprises!
How is this done? Beginning with an assessment of 500+ values, you’ll follow a three-step process to identify your 10 To Live By— those ten values that, when expressed, make you feel at home in your skin, at peace in your mind, and as if your life is fully lived.
While identifying your values is a significant starting point, the greater payoff comes when we pinpoint the gaps where you’re not living those top 10. We’ll be spending our next 4 weeks making sure your 10 To Live By are front and center and have a starring role in your next 365 days.
Here’s what we’ll cover in Week #5
Visioning: What do you want? The little question that packs a big punch.
After getting clear about the current landscape of your life and Who you are today, it’s time to focus on what you really want for your life.
You may think you know. Or you may have no idea. Either way, Week #5 is all about picturing what is possible for your future.
One of the most common pitfalls around visioning is holding back, thinking small, and limiting what’s possible. We’re going to be guided by the words of Robert Fritz, “If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is a compromise.”
Week #5 is not about compromise. Instead, I’m going to support you in stepping into your Bigness and imagining a future that inspires and motivates, that puts a spring in your step and a gleam in your eye. That really lights you up.
It’s only by having a complete and compelling picture of the vision you have for your best life that you can plan and act accordingly. When you don’t have a clear vision, it’s like driving a car without knowing where you want to go. You might see some really cool places along the way and have some great experiences, but you also might go in circles and end up nowhere.
Week #5 is all about the big picture of what matters most to you. It’s about dreaming grounded in reality. It’s about what you want your life to become—not what it is today.
Interestingly enough, as much as you may want things to be more, less, or different in your life, it’s not always easy to craft a vision of your ideal future. But I promise you this: articulating what you really (really!) want is the first undeniable step in making it happen.
Don’t worry. I won’t simply ask, “What’s your vision of your ideal future?” and set you loose. That’s too open-ended, scary, and amorphous.
Instead, you’ll be guided with a series of thought-provoking explorations designed to spark your thinking, but with a proven structure to make your dream a reality.
Here’s what we’ll cover in Week #6
Goal setting—aka: Turning your vision for the future into reality.
A gap exists between your current reality and the future you envision. Week #6 is where the rubber hits the road: you set goals to bridge that gap.
This week is all about goal setting, but it won’t be like any goal setting you’ve ever done.
The short and sweet of it is this: It’s time to stop wasting another day without clarity, direction, motivation, and focus. Instead, it’s time to set goals that reflect what matters most to you so the next 365 days are your best yet.
Many are very good at dreaming and wishing, but dreaming and wishing is not goal setting. More often than not, dreams and wishes go unrealized when they’re not coupled with corresponding goals.
It’s really this simple: For your dreams to become a reality, you have to effectively set and manage goals. This week you’ll set goals, and next week you’ll learn a powerful process for managing them.
Using the exclusive What Matters Most 365®: Life By Design process, during Week #6, you’ll generate 24-50 meaningful, motivating, stretch goals.
Don’t be intimidated by those numbers! Once you master SMART, SMARTER, DUMB, and IMPACT, it will be a breeze for you to generate relevant and motivating goals.
But you won’t stop there. To strategically use your time, energy, and resources over the next 365 days, you’ll judiciously select your Power12—the 12 goals that mean the most to you, energize you the most, and will make the most difference when achieved.
Here’s what we’ll cover in Week #7
Tactical drill down: From wishful thinking to action.
Remember those 12 goals you set last week—your Power12? Well, here’s the bottom line: You now need to make the tangible connection between wishful thinking (which is initially all a goal really is) and the real-world actions required to make each of your Power12 a reality.
The process began with the goal setting you did during Week # 6. But once a goal is set, all the things that make it achievable—support, resources, accountability, and a plan of action—must be clarified in order to gain and sustain traction. While goal management may not sound enticing, it’s the crux of whether you ultimately accomplish your goals.
During Week #7, you’ll learn how to apply a powerful drilling down goal management technique for each of your Power12. Tactical Drill Down guides you in establishing monthly, weekly, and even smaller daily goals for breaking your big, juicy, Power12 into progressively smaller digestible parts.
But this powerful technique doesn’t stop there. You’ll also become adept at identifying the support, resources, and accountability you need to achieve your goals as well as better understand how to leverage opportunities and mitigate threats.
Successful goal management using Tactical Drill Down gives you the best chance of success in achieving each Power12 goal that truly matters most to you for a breakthrough year.
Here’s what we’ll cover in Week #8
Focus 365: Your life design blueprint.
Week #8 is where all your hard work comes together in the form of a tangible What Matters Most 365®: Life By Design plan. It’s when achieving your goals shifts from possibility to probability.
We’ll begin by debriefing your application of Tactical Drill Down to each of your Power12 to ensure there is comprehensive clarity about how you’ll achieve each one over the coming 365 days. In addition, this debrief will allow us to spot any holes in your tactics, bolster strategies, and make certain you have a compelling blueprint to sustain action.
From there, we’ll summarize the information, insight, and inspiration of the last seven weeks to create your actual What Matters Most 365® plan. This blueprint of what matters most will serve as a quick reference and your compelling motivator and guide for your breakthrough year.
You’ll also learn how to use the 4Rs, an effective and compelling method to check-in monthly and reconnect with your Power12, recalibrate as necessary, and recommit to what needs to happen to make it a breakthrough year. The 4Rs will guide you in using the blueprint you’ve created as a springboard to consistently, single-mindedly, and enthusiastically focus on what matters most to you.
For the first time I feel like I have a map and a compass, and I am headed in the right direction. Thank you!
Michael Hendrix, Denver, CO
We won’t be a good fit if…
While always empathetic, my straightforward, no‐nonsense approach isn’t for everyone. I’ve been described both as an encouraging thinking partner and a kick-in-the-pants advocate.
I will ask you not to stay stuck, look too long in the rear view mirror, or think small. We will not be a good fit if you focus on blaming others, are in a perpetual state of complaint, gravitate toward suffering, want to continue selling yourself short, or refuse to take action.
Here’s my promise to you…
I am committed to your satisfaction with What Matter Most 365®: Life By Design—and am confident you’ll be thrilled with the program. I also know if you follow the program, step-by-step, and do the work, you will have a life-transforming experience.
So register today. Commit to the program and its process. Make time and space to do the pre-work in advance of each week’s call. Come to the calls prepared to extract insights and apply program concepts to your life. Get everything you can.
If for any reason you’re not entirely satisfied with What Matters Most 365®: Life By Design, you are welcome to a 100% money back guarantee within the first 4 weeks of the 8-week engagement. All you have to do is ask and your money will be refunded, with no hassle or delay.
I back What Matters Most 365®: Life By Design 100% because I’ve seen firsthand the transformation participants have experienced. So you have nothing to lose. Well, except for feeling stuck and merely surviving.
What’s the next step?
Ready to sign up? Your investment for What Matters Most 365®: Life By Design is $1150. (You can pay in full or elect to make your investment in two installments).
- What Matters Most 365®: Life By Design is concentrated into 8-weeks to give you an immediate boost and maximum impact.
- The hallmark of What Matters Most 365®: Life By Design is one-on-one personalized interaction; it’s just you and me working together!
- I’m so confident of your success using What Matters Most 365®: Life By Design that I offer a money back guarantee.
Click on the red Book Now button to sign up for What Matters Most 365®: Life By Design. Within 24 hours, I’ll be in touch to welcome you to the program and with your first week’s pre-work.
I set bigger goals with What Matters Most 365®: Life by Design than I ever have in the past. But even better is I’m reaching them!
Lakeisha Young, Detroit, MI
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All the best!